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Caregiver survival
However this landed on you, it is one of the biggest unpaid jobs in the country. And the systems around you are built on the idea that you will keep taking it on. This page is a list of what exists to hold you up.
How big this is
A 2025 study by AARP and the National Alliance for Caregiving counts 63 million Americans giving ongoing care to an adult or a child with a medical condition or disability. That is nearly 50% more than in 2015, and over 40% give very heavy care.[2] That count includes people caring for children, so it is not a count of people caring for elders only.
AARP's "Valuing the Invaluable" report puts a dollar figure on it. 59 million people caring for adults gave 49.5 billion hours of care in 2024, worth $1.01 trillion at $20.41 an hour. That was more than all federal, state and local Medicaid spending that year, which was $932 billion.[3]
An earlier version of this page also said people caring for adults over 50 give 26 hours a week for five years on average, and that nearly one in four gives 40 or more hours. Those numbers may be in the full 2025 report. We could not open the report's tables to check them, so they are out until we can. The same goes for the claim that over half of caregivers do medical tasks. The report's own word is "many." The number it does give is that only 22% get training, which is on the accidental nurse page.
None of this is meant to make anyone feel guilty. It is proof that what you feel matches what you are doing.
Burnout has real signs
The Cleveland Clinic's list:[1]
- Being worn out in body and mind.
- Pulling away from friends, family and other loved ones.
- Losing interest in things you used to enjoy.
- Feeling hopeless and helpless.
- Changes in appetite or weight.
- Changes in sleep.
- Not being able to concentrate.
- Getting sick more often.
- Being irritable, frustrated or angry with others.
On how common it is, the Clinic says: "Studies show that more than 60% of caregivers experience symptoms of burnout." The page does not name those studies. So take the number as a medical source's summary, not one you can trace back.[1]
Two of the things it says raise the risk are worth reading twice, because they describe a situation and not a kind of person: having no one to take over when you are tired, and feeling you are the only one who can do the job right.[1]
If several of these are you, the next section is what to do about it. And telling your own doctor is a real medical visit, not complaining.
The support that is already there
- The National Family Caregiver Support Program pays for five kinds of help through state and local aging offices: information; help getting services; one-on-one counseling, support groups and caregiver training; respite care; and a small amount of other help. It covers adult family members caring for someone 60 or over, people caring for someone of any age with Alzheimer's disease, and some older relatives caring for children or for adults aged 18 to 59 with disabilities.[4] Local programs decide who they take and what they offer, so ask what is paid for this year. One call: 1-800-677-1116.
- Real breaks — respite in all its forms, including what Medicare covers and what it does not: its own page.
- The family, organized — meetings, siblings who do less, care managers: its own page.
- A weekday break that helps them too — and the one thing here with research showing an effect on the body: adult day programs.
- Support groups — the Family Caregiver Alliance (caregiver.org), and for dementia the Alzheimer's Association's free helpline at 800-272-3900, open 24 hours a day in more than 200 languages.[5]
- Money, where there is some — the costs nobody itemizes lists where to look, and caregiver contracts explains how to be paid without costing your parent their Medicaid.
Free local help. Your Area Agency on Aging will talk through your choices with you for free. Find yours through the federal Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677-1116 or eldercare.acl.gov (run by the Administration for Community Living).[6] To learn about the four kinds of local helpers and what each one does, see Who helps me locally.
Quick answers
What are the signs of caregiver burnout?
The Cleveland Clinic lists these: being worn out in body and mind, pulling away from friends and family, losing interest in things you used to enjoy, feeling hopeless and helpless, changes in appetite or weight, changes in sleep, not being able to concentrate, getting sick more often, and being irritable, frustrated or angry with others. It says studies show more than 60% of caregivers have signs of burnout. It names two things that raise the risk: having no one to take over when you are tired, and feeling you are the only one who can do the job right. If several of those are you, that is a good reason for a doctor visit of your own. [1]
How many family caregivers are there?
A 2025 study by AARP and the National Alliance for Caregiving counts 63 million Americans giving ongoing care to an adult or a child with a medical condition or disability. That is nearly 50% more than in 2015. It says over 40% now give very heavy care. Separately, AARP's 2026 "Valuing the Invaluable" report counts 59 million people caring for adults. They gave 49.5 billion hours of care in 2024, worth $1.01 trillion at $20.41 an hour. That was more than all federal, state and local Medicaid spending that year, which was $932 billion. [2, 3]
Is there financial help for family caregivers?
Some. The National Family Caregiver Support Program pays for respite, counseling, support groups, training, help getting services and a small amount of other help, through state and local aging offices. Call your Area Agency on Aging at 1-800-677-1116 and ask what exists where you live. All 50 states and DC have a form of Medicaid program that lets the person choose their own caregiver, which can pay a family member when the person qualifies. The VA has a program that makes a monthly payment to an enrolled primary family caregiver, with narrow rules for who qualifies. And AARP's 2021 study found family caregivers spend about $7,242 a year of their own money, so the call is worth making. [4]
Sources and what they support
Sources checked 2026-09-19 using AI-assisted editorial research. This is a source check, not a clinical review.
- Cleveland Clinic, caregiver burnout. Supports the full symptom list quoted here, the two risk factors quoted, and the statement that studies show more than 60% of caregivers experience symptoms of burnout. That prevalence figure is the clinic's summary of unnamed studies, so it cannot be traced to a sample or a denominator; it is included because a clinical source states it, not as a measured rate. This is patient education, not a diagnostic tool — a list of symptoms is a reason to see your own clinician, not a self-diagnosis.
- AARP and National Alliance for Caregiving, Caregiving in the US 2025. Supports the 63 million figure, the nearly 50% increase since 2015, and that over 40% of caregivers now provide high-intensity care. The population includes adults caring for adults or children, so it is not a count of elder caregivers. This page does not publish hours per week, years of caregiving, or the share providing 40 or more hours, and the full report's tables were not retrievable in this pass — which is why those figures have been removed from this page.
- AARP, Valuing the Invaluable, 2026 update. Supports the $1.01 trillion value of all adult caregiving in 2024, the $20.41 average hourly rate used, the 59 million caregivers of adults and 49.5 billion hours, and the comparison with total federal, state and local Medicaid spending of $932 billion in 2024. This is an economic valuation — unpaid hours multiplied by an assumed wage — not money that changed hands, and its 59 million counts caregivers of adults only.
- ACL, National Family Caregiver Support Program. Supports the five funded service categories including respite and expressly limited supplemental services, and the four eligible caregiver groups. Funding goes as grants to states and territories and is delivered locally, so this establishes what the program funds, not what any family will receive.
- Alzheimer's Association helpline. Supports the number 800-272-3900, that it is free, staffed 24 hours a day, and available in more than 200 languages. Information and support, not clinical care.
- Administration for Community Living, Eldercare Locator. Supports the referral route to a local Area Agency on Aging. What a given agency funds varies by county and by year.
Removed in this pass, for want of a retrievable source: 26 hours a week and five years as averages for caregivers of adults 50+; nearly one in four providing 40 or more hours; one in five reporting fair or poor health and a quarter saying caregiving makes their own health harder; and that over half perform medical tasks. The 45%-in-a-decade growth figure has been corrected to the nearly 50% since 2015 that AARP states.